I don't know anyone else who would understand my situation better than you all. All my girl friends who are married have husbands who are not gamers.
my husband is a gamer. He wasn't this bad before we had kids but after we had our first son, it's like his passion for gaming got reignited and he started getting really into it. Didn't get any better after our second child. He used to work full time and would spend every single night on his phone on his game. Until the early hours of the morning, then he would wake up late on weekends instead of helping with the kids. He also never contributes to the household chores (we both work full time) but would rather spend his time indulging in his game.
now that he is unemployed (he quit his job 2 months ago so we could move closer to family) it looks like it has gotten worse. He even bought himself a desktop so he could play on a bigger screen.
he hardly spends any time with the kids. When I need his help with anything kid or household related he would either push it to later to do it or he would do it quickly then go back to his game.
It's what he spends most of his time on, and he's not even trying to look for a job.
He knows how much I dislike him being so addicted to his game but he tells me that it helps him escape from reality, he enjoys the fantasy world and his mind just goes numb and he enjoys that. I don't know anyone else that is so addicted to games. He used to work at a game arcade when he was a teenager (dropped out of school) and I think that's what sparked his interest in games.
every weekend is a dread because although the kids are home with us, he is in his computer room on his game pretty much the whole day. He is also very short tempered with our eldest son who is only 4 years old.
Are there any other wives out there with gamer husbands who also have kids? How do you manage/handle his addiction?
And gamers out there maybe you could help me better understand what is going on. I am hardly a gamer so I don't know why or how one could be so addicted to games..
If we didn't have kids I probably would not hesitate to leave him just based on how distant he is becoming towards me and the kids but now I just don't know what to do.