ex-husband playing mature and adult video games with 8yr old son on parenting time weekends. what can I do?

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ex-husband playing mature and adult video games with 8yr old son on parenting time weekends. what can I do?

My son is 8. He is very impressionable. He has several disabilities which cause him to act even l ess mature than he is. Very proudly when exchanging my son this weekend my ex tells me about this new game called titanfall which he played all weekend with our son. Created by the makers of COD so you can imagine what the game is like. I asked what it's rated and my ex didn't know, maybe teen. I looked it up. It's rated mature. He even told me he posted the videos of him, his brother and our eight yr old on YouTube playing titan fall. 

 

Our son had nightmares all the time and I'm the one that deals with it and on top of that its not appropriate for an eight yr old. What can I do to get him to stop. I've asked him to but he just tells our son screw your mother and does it anyway. We have a guardian ad litem but he never does anything to restrict their time, in face he recently got his overnights back after not having them for four yrs. Drinking, drugs, dui, he's also bipolar. He is corrupting our child. Help?

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Welcome Mel You are right to

Welcome Mel

You are right to be concerned. Please consider contacting your social services department for advice or a lawyer. Maybe you can find one who can give you a free first session.

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Sorry that you have to go

Sorry that you have to go through this mel126.

I certainly would be concerned too.

I agree with Polga that your best bet is contacting relevant authorities to find out what rights do you have under these circumstances.

Stay strong! Hugs!

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I know of someone who went

I know of someone who went went to court about improper usage of video games and won the support of the judge. The father was restricted from allowing the child to see or play certain games. Hopefully you can gain support via the legal system. I'm sorry your son's father does not see the harm. I don't know if you could share articles with him on the subject--just a thought.

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mommy3 wrote: I know of
mommy3 wrote:

I know of someone who went went to court about improper usage of video games and won the support of the judge. The father was restricted from allowing the child to see or play certain games. Hopefully you can gain support via the legal system. I'm sorry your son's father does not see the harm. I don't know if you could share articles with him on the subject--just a thought.

WOW!

If this helps, use the knowledge of the "Tetris Effect" on the mind (some game images in talk):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bsxTo3tw6iE

Andrew P. Doan, MPH, MD, PhD

My Gaming Addiction Videos on YouTube: YouTube.com/@DrAndrewDoan

*The views expressed are of the author's and do not necessarily reflect the official policy of the U.S. Navy, DHA or Department of Defense.

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Although games have age

Although games have age restrictions, few adults and even fewer children pay much heed to this. How many parents do you know who control and monitor what their children watch on TV, YouTube or Netflix?

With alcohol and tobacco there is fairly good enforcement of age limits, even though determined children can get around these. They do deter the casual user.

Internet and television age restrictions are mostly honoured in the breach.

Parents need to put huge effort into monitoring their children's digital playground. Sadly there is not much support or awareness of this in public or in the media.

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I can assure you that

I can assure you that Titanfall is not a bad game. Its doesnt involve Horror or something like that ofcourse 8 years is a bit young and if he really has nightmares because of it i dont really know why he would have nightmares because of it maybe you should ask him about what the nightmares are about. I doubt he is old enough to understand anything that happens in the game anyway. Ask about if he likes the Game and why he has nightmares. If he really has Nightmares because of the Game you should talk to your Ex about it and if he doesnt listen take legal steps. Please just remember that games that are rated mature arent always that bad it really depends on the child/teen that plays it so you should go into the details.

Greetings Benni

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