My SO has found a new love in Evony. I can no longer compete with a game. I feel like he is choosing the game over his family and his future as a family. I feel like Evony has taken over his brain and I am so scared this is our new reality. When I bring it up he spins everything back on me and what I do wrong in the relationship. I feel alone :(.
Need someone to talk to!
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S2024
Evony is my competition as well. I caught him spending hundreds of dollars on it. When I confronted him about it, he admitted to it, said it was wrong, and agreed to keep it to $50 a month. Now, I can't find record of a single dollar being spent on Google Play, so I imagine he good a way to continue spending without a "paper" trail.
He's often irritable with me and snaps at me. If I'm not walking on eggshells, I'm offending him somehow. He doesn't initiate intimacy and occasionally declines my advances if he's too tired.
He spends hours on his phone every day, playing the game and chatting with his online friends. I often feel neglected and second rate. I wonder if he is getting his emotional needs met by someone else. I feel shut out.
I don't have any advice for you. I just want you to know that you're not alone.
Hi Stich
Sorry you have this situation to deal with. You are not alone.
Check out the spouses's info linked in my signature. Many people have shared their stories here and reading them may help you.
There are also online meetings where you can talk
Take care
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I have similar experience with my partner. My suggestion is get your own life, I mean like a single woman. If you find someone else, just say goodbye to your husband. Second suggestion, leave him now. Sorry to be blunt but I don't believe they deserve our time and effort. Anyway whatever we do it will not work and that is for sure. Take care.
Lv
My relationship is getting wrecked by this game, too. My SO has apparently been talking to other players from the game through text, whatsapp, and other platforms that I had no idea about, and having very sexual conversations with at least 1 other guy. She is on this game all day, every day, and does not leave the bedroom on her days off because she wants to play her game. She skips family events, our son's sporting events, and everything if there is a "server war" or "battlefield" to do. It has taken over her life and I, too, am exhausted by this and her obsession with this game.
IHateEvony
I'm so sorry to hear how your wife is so hooked on Evony that your family is suffering
We can't control their choices but we can stop our part of keeping them in addiciton
See the info for spouses linked in my signature
See the info linked below for spouses.
INFO
Help for gamers here
Help for parents of gamers here
Help for spouses/SO's of gamers here
Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here
Online meetings gaming addicts click here
Please help! Donate here